Letter About Prison Marriages
Written in the Fall
letter refers to male inmates marrying women from the free world. There are some
basic reasons why these marriages take place. Some of the reasons are good, some
are understandable and some are less than good reasons.
important thing for each party considering this step is that they make sure they
have become a born-again Christian as John 3:5 and continuing on in the Chapter
explains. And then Romans 12:1 urges us to present our bodies as living sacrifices
which is our reasonable service. This is the full surrender which we owe to our
Lord but many Christians do not do.
these steps have been taken one needs to pray for guidance in ones life
and listen to the Lord and His Word specifically to us through the Scriptures
and through others and circumstances.
years ago I married a man who was serving a life sentence. I met him about 7 years
before when he had served a couple of years on the sentence. We corresponded,
and eventually became engaged. The Lord gave me Scriptures and the assurance that
I was in His will and everything worked out for an outside the prison
ceremony. My husband had home passes because of good behavior for about 9 months.
We both had prayed for a child and the Lord granted that prayer. Our son Matthew
was born when I was 37 years old and is now
29 years old.
my husband was eligible for parole when we married I looked forward to his soon
release and homecoming. But it was not to be. He disobeyed some prison rules while
out on a pass and he has not been eligible for outside passes since then nor has
he been able even to attain the status of Honor Grade which is needed to be considered
for passes and for parole. Whether he will ever be paroled is questionable.
has sustained myself and my son all these years but the hardships have been far
greater than anyone could imagine. And if I had not been specifically led into
this situation I would not have been able to stay in it. My husband has been incarcerated
since he was 21 and he was 60 years old this summer. I was 66 in September.
been in prison ministry for about 25 years. This was possibly the main reason
for my being led to marry a prisoner. And much good has come out of the marriage.
We do have a companionship and friendship which has continued these many years.
All my relatives have died and I have only my husband, son and a grandson.
above experience I would just state the following:
of a prison marriage for the women: